some parent thoughts

i was looking at my son the other day and realized one thing about children that is their biggest advantage over grown-ups. children don't have to do anything because it's inconvenient. if they don't want to listen to somebody they don't have to, if they don't want to smile, they don't need to, if they want to protest to something, that is what they can and do.

on the other hand the best thing to teach a child is to take some things and people into account. i have been looking at my friend these days and the way she talks to her child and i can say for sure, child's feeling of appreciation is the only thing that influences his behaviour. when you ask him to do or not to do something, the reward must not be a new toy, a destination for weekend or other material rewards, but that emotional award -  if your child doesn't want to go to sleep, but he climbs up the bed because it will make mom happy, and if he doesn't want to go to school, but still goes to make dad proud - then you can say that you are teaching your child the right things. you're teaching him to take other people's feelings into consideration, to do things that sometimes they don't want to do in sake of other person's happiness - that is the first step towards becoming a true person. but parents, on the other hand, should do those things mutually. we should also listen, turn off the parent modes sometimes and allow some things that are not allowed.

harmony.

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the first date

on 8th of march we went to the concert of georgian band 33a. this concert was one big reason to write a post or even several posts. this post is inspired by a couple who was sitting on my lefthandside and was absolutely for sure on the first date. by the middle of the concert i wanted to kill them because of their put-on enthusiasm, but then i tried to look at the whole thing from their side and it all began to make sense. 

have you noticed those couples who have just begun dating? how many common things they have? with some differences, they more or less:

are never quite. the silence is something that can be achieved on the next steps of dating. first-daters talk so much, about themselves, about weather, movies and everything that from their point of view will build the image of themselves in the eyes of their date. but the talking is inevitable. what else can you do, when somebody doesn't know you inside out and you can tell him any stories in the world? especially those ones, that make you look good and as a result, feel even better. 

are always laughing. probably everyone, even subconsciously, knows that we all look best when we smile, and that's what we do on dates. we laugh to every joke, to every not-even-a-joke, and we laugh so loud. and are generally very loud. i have noticed that first-daters talk much louder that normal-daters. maybe to impress each other more, i have no answer to that.

are always going into each other's spaces. they suddenly hug, touch hands, stroke shoulders - to show they like each other. and almost always those things are pretty subconscious, the most logical thing to do when you like somebody.

don't care about people around. on the first date, you care only about person you are impressing. and therefore see only him. with laughs, loud talks and smiles. you begin noticing waiters, audience in the theatre, viewers at the cinema, musicians in the restaurant only when you have been dating for some time already. until then, you don't care what other people will think. 

that is why first dates are great. even if some girl is sitting next to you wishing you would EVER stop laughing and let her enjoy the concert. 

the colours of barcelona

i have visited spain first when i was 12 years old. it was 1999 and with my memory of not remembering what i did yesterday, the fact that i remember some bits from that trip is already very unusual. those flashes of memory include the monument of don quixote and sancho panza in madrid, me buying a spanish fan near Prado museum, a visit to Barcelona aquarium, wavy gaudi park and even wavier houses and finally, the music festival in lloret de mar. travelling is great and travelling to the places you have been to in childhood and rediscovering them is even greater.

this year i spent a week in those two cities of spain and decided to write down some of the feelings that i took back with me from that trip. the main feeling from barcelona is the feeling of colours. i know such feeling doesn't exist, but i cannot say it in different words. no other place in this world that i have visited is as colourful as barcelona. you know my deep love to everything colourful, in architecture, home decor, clothes, accessories - and this city is from now on my colourful list.

one more thing i have noticed about myself is the fact, that when i visit this or that country, when walking around it, the only songs that come to my mind and which i sing to myself are those in the language of the place i'm visiting. yes, i sing songs to myself all the time, absolutely unintentionally and on the automatic level, so during my walking days in barcelona the top song on my mind was by tucara and alba molina - no puedo quitar mis ojos de ti. on my previus trip to austria, the songs i sang were only german, so in this case with spain, the choice of songs was much wider, since my head ipod is fuller with spanish songs than the german ones.

leaving you with this song and wishing all of us some more colours in our life, because in my opinion, the levels of colours and happiness are mutually dependent.