i was looking at my son the other day and realized one thing about children that is their biggest advantage over grown-ups. children don't have to do anything because it's inconvenient. if they don't want to listen to somebody they don't have to, if they don't want to smile, they don't need to, if they want to protest to something, that is what they can and do.
on the other hand the best thing to teach a child is to take some things and people into account. i have been looking at my friend these days and the way she talks to her child and i can say for sure, child's feeling of appreciation is the only thing that influences his behaviour. when you ask him to do or not to do something, the reward must not be a new toy, a destination for weekend or other material rewards, but that emotional award - if your child doesn't want to go to sleep, but he climbs up the bed because it will make mom happy, and if he doesn't want to go to school, but still goes to make dad proud - then you can say that you are teaching your child the right things. you're teaching him to take other people's feelings into consideration, to do things that sometimes they don't want to do in sake of other person's happiness - that is the first step towards becoming a true person. but parents, on the other hand, should do those things mutually. we should also listen, turn off the parent modes sometimes and allow some things that are not allowed.
harmony.
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on the other hand the best thing to teach a child is to take some things and people into account. i have been looking at my friend these days and the way she talks to her child and i can say for sure, child's feeling of appreciation is the only thing that influences his behaviour. when you ask him to do or not to do something, the reward must not be a new toy, a destination for weekend or other material rewards, but that emotional award - if your child doesn't want to go to sleep, but he climbs up the bed because it will make mom happy, and if he doesn't want to go to school, but still goes to make dad proud - then you can say that you are teaching your child the right things. you're teaching him to take other people's feelings into consideration, to do things that sometimes they don't want to do in sake of other person's happiness - that is the first step towards becoming a true person. but parents, on the other hand, should do those things mutually. we should also listen, turn off the parent modes sometimes and allow some things that are not allowed.
harmony.
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