boiling water

there is a wonderful saying - 'the same boiling water that softens potatoes - hardens eggs. it's all about what you are made of, not your circumstances'.

i have often heard people talk about other people. it is a big hobby especially for people in such small cities as tbilisi. and while doing so, they often mention their disapproval of those people's actions and the judgement of what they would do instead. they can talk and none of us will ever be able to stop them from talking, but the most important thing here is that - nobody is allowed to judge. yes, the circumstances may be the same for different people, but everyone handles them according to what's inside of them. some people have very emotional hearts (and i attribute myself to those), some have better ability to get hold of themselves, some seem much self-controlled than they actually are and some have blood made of steel. in any case - we all deal with things differently and the circumstances that may have no effect on one person can lead to tears in other person's eyes.

the main thing is to know this when you have a problem and realize that you are not very good at dealing with it - never compare yourself to others and never worry that somebody else would deal with it better, nor judge others who have their own ways of coping with things/or not coping. it's their life and you have nothing to do with their way of living it.

here's a nice song for you today by stevie wonder and my favourite dionne warwick - it's you

little grocery game

those of you who read my blog may have noticed my hobby of observing things. i like to watch people in the streets, i like observing friends, couples, families. in the restaurants, i like thinking about people on the tables around - what they do, how they are related to each other, i come up with different stories about everyone and begin imagining what their life looks like.

one more silly thing i do is that i look at the grocery shopping lists of other people in the row in front of me, and at all the parallel cashier desks which i can see and make predictions about their lives. this is the best and funniest way to kill minutes of standing in the long queues.

you can say for sure that a person has a child, even guess if it's a boy or a girl, you can see how health-oriented he or she is, does she have a big family? if she picks up several packs of chicken and lots of vegetables - you can for sure say she's cooking for a big family of minimum four. i often see guys who buy some really single boy things - plates, razors, small dish-washing liquids (obviously the least practical of all), packs of beer; or school friends, who bring together all the coins that their parents have given them and buy candies for their classmate girls..

.. and then i stop to look at my grocery. it would be super interesting to know what somebody standing behind me would think of me after looking at the things i buy.

it would be easy to guess i have a child, apart of the fact that my child is usually there with me shopping, i have lots of child things - cornflakes, cookies, yogurts, animal shaped pastas and lots of books, which i manage to find anywhere i shop. they would guess i am a sweets-loving person and that our family really really loves guests. they would also think that i am a vegetarian and my husband loves meat. they would definitely be wrong because it is all vice versa in my family, but then, i can't control their thoughts, so if in somebody's thoughts i am a healthy food eater, that won't be too bad. they would know i love to bake more than cook and that i work for borjomi. and in all their predictions they will be pretty much close to truth.

so next time you do your grocery shopping have a look at what you buy - it is funny to realize how your shopping list looks in the eyes of someone from the outside.

i am writing this post listening to curtis mayfield and his 'let's not forget', which has absolutely nothing to do with the topic of this post, but which i don't want to lose. when i want to listen to some nice music i always open my blog - here is the place where i keep all the songs i love, even more than in any playlist of mine.